Got burning advice questions about boys, friends, school and more? Blog Girl is here for you! Every week, we take questions from YOU, our lovely readers, and choose questions at random to answer right here. If you need advice about anything, please leave your questions in the comments below. Letâ€™s get to this weekâ€™s questions!
mrs. ross lynch wrote, â€œHey blog girl! So lately ive been feeling trapped. I keep telling my parents that i wanna be a singer/actress but they dont want me to be! They keep sayin that they dont want the â€œfame lifeâ€ for me but i dont care i REALLY want it!!! I love to entertain and i love music! How do i let out my feelings and convince them that i really want it so they can support me?â€
Hey mrs. ross lynch! That’s great that you know what you love to do already! If you love music, you donâ€™t necessarily have to decide right this moment to become a professional singer. You have a long time to just explore and have fun with music first! Talk to your parents and let them know that you are open to any career path later on, but for now â€“ ask if you can start voice lessons or buy a guitar, just for fun! As time goes on, your parents may see just how much you truly love what you do. As of right now, they probably are just worried that youâ€™re rushing into a career choice. Give them time to see for themselves how much you mean it, by showing them how dedicated you can be!
JMJswaggin wrote, â€œIâ€™ve been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months now and itâ€™s going good. I like him soooooooo much and he liked me a lot too. One problem I am having, however, is people tease me about liking him because hes not the â€œcoolestâ€ guy in the world. They also tease me because Iâ€™m rather tall and heâ€™s kind of short. I admit heâ€™s not every girlâ€™s dream guy, but love him. What should I do the next time these people ask me things like â€œWhy do you like himâ€, or say â€œew but heâ€™s so uglyâ€ or â€œbut you’re WAY taller than himâ€ ??â€
Hey JMJswaggin! First of all, itâ€™s awesome that you like your boyfriend for who he is and that you arenâ€™t influenced by your friendsâ€™ comments. Good for you! Your friends shouldnâ€™t be making mean comments about his appearance to begin with â€“ but since they do, try giving them a reason to stop themselves. Next time you hang out with your friends, bring your boyfriend along too. The more time they spend around him, the more your friends can start to see everything you like about your boyfriend: whether itâ€™s his funny jokes or caring personality. Who knows – they might even become fast friends with him as well! If they all end up getting along, I guarantee your friends wonâ€™t even remember the height difference after a while. And if they donâ€™t end up getting along with him â€“ the next time your friends make a mean comment, just laugh it off and say, â€œOh well, Iâ€™m the one dating him – not you!â€
JJ wrote, â€œI spent the night at my BFFâ€™s house and when she left the room I looked through her yearbooks and in every one of them next to my picture she wrote hate her. What should I do????â€
Hi JJ! Iâ€™m so sorry that your BFF wrote those things about you! It may hurt, but youâ€™ll never know what she meant if you donâ€™t ask her about it upfront. When you do bring it up though, make sure not to start out too confrontational. Say something like, â€œHey, what did you mean when you wrote â€˜Hate herâ€™ next to my pictures in your yearbook? Was that just to be funny, or did I do something to make you angry?â€ Give her a chance to explain. Hopefully it was just a joke or a misunderstanding, but if it wasnâ€™t â€“ ask her to be honest with you about why sheâ€™s mad at you. Maybe the problem is something fixable, or something that you werenâ€™t even aware of! When itâ€™s out in the open, you and your friend can talk it through and maybe end up with an even stronger friendship. Â But if she really did just write those things to be mean â€“ it might be time to start hanging out with another BFF.
1dlove wrote, â€œHi Iâ€™m having a sweetheart dance for valentines day at my base youth center and I really want to go but I donâ€™t have a date and Iâ€™m the only one going without Someone. Even the younger kids have dates and Iâ€™m really embarrassed because ive never had a boyfriend and Iâ€™m in the 7th grade and all my friends have. I would hang out with my friends at the dance but they all have dates and whenever their together they act like Iâ€™m not there. I try to tell them how I feel but it never helps. also Iâ€™m not sure if Iâ€™m allowed to date but its too weird and uncomfortable to just ask them. HELP!!!!!!â€
Hi 1dlove! Valentineâ€™s Day can definitely be tricky for single people. But think hard â€“ there has to be ONE other guy you know who also doesnâ€™t have a date to the Sweetheart Dance! Chances are, they probably want someone to go with tooâ€¦ maybe not even as a date. You can be perfectly honest with him and ask, â€œCan you go with me to the dance so I donâ€™t feel lonely when our couple-friends ditch us? We can hang out and eat Cheetos or something while they dance!â€ That way, neither he nor you will feel pressure to think of it as a â€œdate.â€ And if you donâ€™t want to ask a guy, you can always bring another single girl friend along and have fun with!
Makala wrote, â€œDear blog girl, I have a crush on a guy online and heâ€™s really nice but I donâ€™t know what to do and I donâ€™t want to share to much personal info like my where abouts. what do I do?!â€
Hi Makala! You are definitely right to feel nervous about sharing too much personal info â€“ especially over the Internet, where people might not always be who they say they are. If you have online friendships, it’s important to remember not to share personal details about your life. For example, you can share a funny story with him about something your new puppy did, but you donâ€™t have to say where you got the puppy or the name of the person who gave you the puppy. And really, you should check with a parent about their policy on your online friendships. It might seem crazy strict, but your parents have rules that are meant to keep you safe. At the same time, keep an eye out for guys you interact with in real life too, such as in school or a sports team. Start a conversation with the boy behind you in math classâ€¦ who knows? Maybe heâ€™ll turn out to be just as nice and cool as the guy you liked online â€“ and you can actually hang out with this one in person!