Got burning advice questions about boys, friends, school and more? Blog Girl is here for you! Every week, we take questions from YOU, our lovely readers, and choose questions at random to answer right here. If you need advice about anything, please leave your questions in the comments below. Let’s get to this week’s questions!
Glittergirl4ever wrote, “Dear Blog girl, There is this boy that I am sort of crushing on. We are friends but a couple weeks ago I started to like him and get nervous around him. Now whenever we talk I can’t help but laugh because a. he’s a total class clown and b. I laugh when I’m nervous. The worst thing is that I try to keep myself from laughing and I make this stupid face! He thinks its cute or at least I’m pretty sure but my mind goes blank so we kinda just laugh and stare at eachother. He sends me totally mixed signals and I am so confused. How can I know if he likes me and if so how can I get him to ask me out? Please help!”
Hey, Glittergirl4ever! It can be so awkward when you realize you have a crush on a friend, but don’t worry, it’s not the end of the world. First, you’re probably right – I bet he DOES think that your “stupid” (I’m sure it’s NOT stupid) face is adorable. Since he’s your friend, you can count on him to be honest. The good news is that there’s a really good chance that he likes you back (especially if he’s getting quiet and staring back at you – he might just not know what to say either). Be honest about how you feel. It’s the only way you’ll ever know for sure. If he doesn’t like you back, that’s okay too! You can still be great friends. Good luck!
LuvAyla wrote, “Hey blog girl, I have this friend and she’ really nice and all, but sometimes, she’s a little mean and she doesn’t even notice it! Her name’s Charlene, and the mean problem isn’t the only thing, we also are a little bit opposite she likes Korean Pop (Kpop) bands, and those bands don’t even make sense, but anyway, one of the problems that I’ve noticed is, sometimes when there’s like a problem and the problem affects someone else she just says something hurtful!
Like one time ants invaded a part of the floor close to our lunch table, and she was so scared of the ants, I stepped on some ants then she said â€I’m not going close to you ever!†I know it was a joke, but it really hurt! She never even says no offense! PLEASE HELP!”
Hey, LuvAyla! This is a tough situation, but there’s good news: Your friend probably doesn’t mean to be mean. This sounds like a classic case of misunderstanding. You should talk to Charlene about the way you feel and let her know that sometimes she hurts your feelings without meaning to. Don’t yell at her or attack her – that will only make her defensive. Be calm and nice about it. If she’s really your friend, she’ll want to make changes to fix the friendship. If she doesn’t, it might be a sign that you need to find a new BFF. Good luck!
cec wrote, “Hey blog girl. I am really shy, but i dont want to be!!! I dont take a risk because i am afraid i make a mistake what should i do????”
Hey, cec! Here’s a secret about mistakes: Everyone makes them. Your friends make them. Your teachers and parents even make them. It’s a totally natural part of life and definitely not the end of the world. The great thing is that, even if you make a mistake, you’re always free to try again. Since you don’t want to be shy, pick one of the things you’ve been dying to try and go for it! If you make a mistake, just laugh it off and try again, or try something else! Good luck!
cecilya wrote, “Hey blog girl. My name is Cecilya and the boys at my school dont really like me. What should i do!!!!”
Hey, cecilya! First of all, I have to ask: How do you know that the boys don’t like you? Most people are super shy about the people they like (and sometimes, they even act extra mean to the people they like, just to cover it up – it doesn’t make sense, but it totally happens). So don’t assume that the boys at school don’t like you. Your secret admirer is out there, he’s just probably extra shy about letting you know. Second, even if none of the boys at school have a crush on you, that’s totally okay. People meet their perfect crush tons of different places and yours might just be waiting somewhere else! Good luck!
Hungergames12 wrote, “Dear Blogirl, I have a teacher who hates me a lot. She gets onto me for very little things. One time I was going to class and I stopped by the water fountain to get a drink and she gave me a detention. Another my computer wasn’t working so I asked her for help and she said probably because you were socializing, next time this happens instead of giving your parents a bad report like last time I’ll have you in here to. It seems like she only hates me though. I’m getting grounded a lot because she’s always telling my dad how bad I am, I used to be the best student in my class! Please tell me how to get her to like me, I try really hard.”
Hey, Hungergames12! This is a really tough situation! If you really feel like your teacher is upset with you, try staying after class to ask her about it. Say something like, “I feel like I’ve been getting in trouble a lot lately and I just don’t understand what I’ve been doing wrong. Can you explain the problem to me?” If your teacher has a real reason for acting the way she is, she’ll let you know. It’s also possible that she hasn’t realized she’s been picking on you. Asking what you’re doing wrong will make her aware that you want to know next time she gives you a punishment or calls your parents. If she still singles you out and can’t give you a real reason why you’re getting in trouble, sit down with your parents and talk about what’s going on. Make sure they know your side of the story and don’t be afraid to ask them to talk to her about it next time she calls a meeting. Remember, in the end, your parents are always on your side and if you’re really being punished unfairly, they’ll want to help you fix it. Good luck!
