In the movies, high school is put on such a high pedestal. Everything in your life has been leading up to what is supposed to be the best four years yet. It took me all four years to realize that none of this is really the case. Don’t get me wrong, I met some amazing people, learned a lot, and made tons of memories in my four years of high school. Unfortunately though, most of what pre-high school Zoe expected it to be was nowhere close to what it actually was. Here are some of the things I wish I knew before I started high school:
Drama with friends is not worth it. I definitely learned this one the hard way, but when I finally did, my life changed for the better. Experiencing drama is sometimes inevitable, but what matters is how you deal with the situation. Early on in high school, I somehow managed to get myself involved and caught up in drama some way or another. I have lost countless friends over insignificant ‘he said, she said’ situations or just due to simple misunderstandings. Now that I’ve graduated, I’ve stuck with a very small circle of close friends from high school, and honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way. Good friends stay in your life for a reason! I wish someone had told me before high school that drama with friends is just not worth your time.
Getting good grades shouldn’t affect your mental health. Ever since elementary school, I have always been an over achiever. I was the type of person to stress the small stuff when it came to my academics. I took everything so seriously: whether it was a small homework assignment or a final exam. I always wrote everything down in a planner and, for some reason, thought that I needed to get everything done right away, and it had to be done perfectly. I guess that’s just the Virgo in me! The expectations and pressures that I put on myself eventually started to take a toll on my mental health. Looking back on my academic experience, I really wish I would have known that getting straight A’s wasn’t worth having mental breakdowns every night. Just do your best and don’t put too much unnecessary pressure on yourself! Yes, getting good grades is important, but it’s not worth your mental health.
This one is such a cliché, but just be yourself! I have always been outwardly confident, but in high school I started to overthink what others thought about me. Even if I didn’t show it, I struggled with finding out where I fit in. I definitely believe that everyone goes through this in high school, but it took me a while to find my place socially. During this crazy time in life, everyone is simultaneously trying to level up and find their place! In the end, it’s important to know that none of this really matters after high school.
Just remember, that your mental health and well-being should always come first, and even though high school seem over whelming and hard sometimes, it will all be worth it in the end!
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